Letter To Nobody

I'm not saying that you shouldn't have changed. I'm not saying that you have made a mistake. I'm not saying you're wrong or your right or they are wrong or right. What I'm saying is, you're different now. I don't know what I expected. Maybe I just don't have a full grasp on cultures and oppression like I thought I did. I don't think you should have to alter the way you look to be happy with yourself or to feel accepted. (I accepted you already.) That to me is fitting into society's stereotype of certain feelings matching certain bodies. Why should we put ourselves in that box? (You are not defective!) I think we get swept up in the idea and truth of transgender identity because it makes sense that gender, a completely subjective thing, would be a sliding scale and not finite categories.[{(warning long tangent:  which I don't even really think it's that. I don't think it really exists. It's just a concept created to more easily categorize people scientifically based on anatomy and systematic response to certain stimuli. I think sex is a very real thing. It determines physically your capability for birthing and whatnot and also might influence hormone levels. But I don't think that's foolproof. I think it's a system that's been in place for so long that we have trouble looking outside of it. It's something we have so closely linked with sex and emotion that we have trouble even fully distinguishing it, and in turn we totally misconstrue a large part of 'what is Humanity' by trying to make it fit specific guidelines. Anyway...)}] Then we forget that we can learn from ideas and knowledge without having to act it out. It is possible for everyone to change from one gender to the other but to me changing your body physically, permanently to match how you feel emotionally is frivolous.  If we had no ideas of gender and masculinity and femininity, would you still want to change your body? You are who you are. If everyone else thinks something different without trying to get to know you then that's on them. It doesn't need to be your life goal to make sure your body tells everyone who you are. Be confident knowing you are awesome on the inside. I'm sure I sound like a self righteous ass, but I'm seriously just so tired of all the labeling. Try removing labels from your life actually. Start with your gender. We are all just people. We can't just wait for the world to change, John Mayer. If everyone is waiting then nothing happens. You can start the change inside of you with the way you view and treat and react to the world.


Mav