Sometimes people are so out of touch. I don't mean in the mentally ill sort of way or in the old demented sort of way. I mean in the never living in the moment way. People get so caught up in what happened in the past and where they are going in the future that they can miss what's right in front of their faces. Surely this is the only moment we have. The future never gets here, it always becomes the present. So if you are always thinking about the future then you will always be living ten steps ahead of yourself and maybe missing a lot of things you should be seeing. Yes, planning is great, but when all you do is plan then you don't gain anything but future regrets that you missed out. This is life. Right now. This very second. Not 5 years away. That hasn't happened yet! And not 2 years ago, you can't ever change that again so remember it fondly but don't dwell on it. I think this type of "in the moment" thinking comes from confidence in yourself. You have to be happy with yourself. Think about it. People who want to change are constantly thinking about what it will be like when they have changed, instead of just being who they are and loving themselves (I know that we all go through phases of future thinking--I'm saying it may not necessarily be a good thing when it is overdone). The biggest life lesson that (hopefully) everyone learns is that you can only find happiness within yourself. You can't look for it in any other place. Not in your mom or dad or girlfriend or boyfriend or best friend or brother or sister or anyone. Not even if they make you so happy that you can barely breathe around them. It's a good start, but those feelings fade and if you aren't satisfied with yourself then you wont be satisfied with them. (I'm gonna tangent) I've noticed that a lot of folks (men and women) get caught up in the act of finding that special someone. Often times these people aren't very happy, they don't know what they want or who they are and they keep wondering why they can't find anyone. No one is ever good enough. But when you start to love yourself then you will be fulfilled much easier. You start to look at a relationship as a partnership, a coming together, and working together. It's no longer trying to find someone who "completes" you, because you are already complete. It's not some fairy-tale that you think you will never have to work. A good relationship compromises. It's deciding to share life with someone who is your best friend, understands you, knows what being in a relationship means and loves themselves. Only if they love themselves can they ever love you. So don't go trying to "fix" people. There is a reason those relationships never work. The same goes for you. I know that you are empty and alone and sad and just want to be loved, but trust me (I've been there) if you can't love yourself then you will have a hard time finding real happiness.
Something Good Can Work by Two Door Cinema Club
Unequivocally,
Mav
PS: I changed up the Songs of the Day page so that the most recent song is now on the top.
"Forever is composed of nows."
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